All the high hopes parents have for their kids can come with a lot of anxiety. There are times when parents worry too much and let their fears keep them up at night and this doesn’t stop when the kids leave the nest. One study suggests that parents worry about their adult children so much, that it is costing them sleep.
We at smartzune.com love spreading mental health awareness and honoring family, so we’re sharing this story about what might be bothering some parents at night.
Some parents are up at night even when they’re not involved in their kids’ lives.
Millions of poor children and teenagers grow up without their biological father, and often when you ask them about it, you hear a litany of male barbarism. You hear teens describe how their dad used to beat up their mom, how an absent father had five kids with different women and abandoned them all.
Yet when you ask absent fathers themselves, you get a different picture. You meet guys who desperately did not want to leave their children, who swear they have tried to be with them, who may feel unworthy of fatherhood but who don’t want to be the missing dad their own father was.
Amber J. Seidel of Pennsylvania State University conducted a study on parents, looking at those who had underage children and those with adult children. Looking at 186 families, she discovered that parents lost sleep worrying even when their kids reached adulthood.The children’s tales often reinforce the standard image we have of the deadbeat dad — the selfish cad who spreads his seed and leaves generations of wreckage in his wake.
The study used a scale of one to 5 to measure stress. 5 was the highest level of stress and one meant someone had no stress. Measuring each parents’ sleep patterns, mothers were found to have slept for 6.66 hours per night and fathers had a little more at 6.69 hours per night.