A lot of people in this world love to wear makeup and treat it like it’s an art form, while others dislike it and think that wearing makeup is tacky, or that it hides the person’s actual face. Well, these girls on Quora explained their experiences and people’s reactions to them with and without makeup.
Most of the time, they say that they get more attention and feel more confident with makeup. However, some feel more comfortable being all-natural. Most of them agree that all that matters is to do what makes you happy and look the way you want.
What do you think about makeup? Maybe you have some of your own stories to share?
“When people meet me and I’m bare-faced, I’m treated like just another person. Other women approach me for conversation if I’m at the bar, I exchange casual smiles while passing someone in the aisle grocery shopping, all just typical daily scenarios with the average human being. Rarely do I receive compliments on my looks or get hit on. But when people meet me when I’m dolled up, it’s a night-and-day difference. As some of my best friends have told me, I come across as “intimidating” and “mean”. I’ve had people tell me that before they got to know me they thought I’d be stuck up. I’ve had boys tell me that other boys wouldn’t date me in school because they’re too afraid, that I’m “too cool”.
Girls have walked their boyfriends out of my work because of my looks. Random women have tried to pick fights with me because their husband was looking at me. When I have a full face of makeup on I can walk straight to the front of any VIP line at a night club and get in (even before I was 21.) I get significantly hit on more, even offered a lot of money in exchange for my “time”, and that has never happened without makeup.
People offer me jobs more and try to recruit me to do marketing. Rich men and athletes have taken me out on very luxurious dates, whereas I once did a personal experiment and met up with someone from a dating app bare-faced, and never got a callback. (Granted I wouldn’t have answered, he was dull and egotistical, couldn’t keep a conversation going about anything other than lifting.) I had to wear a full face of “performance makeup” every day for 8 months, and let me tell you, it’s slightly exhausting.
These last 3 months I’ve only worn makeup once and it’s been amazing. Makeup makes me stand out, and sometimes it’s nice to just blend in and focus on the interior and not the exterior. And not trying to sound snobby or pretentious, just wanted to answer the question honestly and compare treatment!”
“I get treated hugely differently. And it pisses me off. Before I rant, let me say, the top picture I took two weeks ago and sent to my boyfriend precisely because it is extremely rare for me to get ‘dressed up’. The second picture is my normal day-to-day look. It’s not that I don’t like getting dressed up, I just utterly resent how differently I am treated. When I am normal Dawn, I don’t turn heads, I am invisible. Fine by me. I am an introvert.I work from home and don’t see many people, and going into busy places makes me anxious. Being invisible suits me down to the ground. On rare occasions, I get dressed up and go out to meet a friend or whatever. Attention embarrasses me. I’m not on FB, Instagram, Twitter, any of that stuff, only Quora: I don’t seek attention, I don’t like it. I’m not saying that’s the only reason people use those sites, but there is certainly a lot of posturing that goes on on them, and that’s really not me. I write my books with pen and paper and still keep real photo albums. I guess I’m old fashioned.
My world is a small one and I love it that way. To suddenly get attention is uncomfortable, especially when it is unwanted looks-based attention. Staring or leering or grabbing etc, which is what it almost always is, makes me want to run back to what I call my Darkened Room and it’s frustrating as hell that I can’t make myself look and feel pretty—just because it’s nice to sometimes—without suddenly being a target for this sort of thing and it’s all so fricking artificial.
I was in Curry’s last week and there was a girl in there who had, to even a hasty observer, dolled herself up in every fake way possible. That’s not a dig, just a fact. False eyelashes, full makeup, bleached hair, etc. There were three guys working there who were so blatantly staring, gawping, and talking about her (they reminded me of the guys in The 40-Year-Old Virgin) and I was standing a few paces away. I’d literally just moved house (I think we’d had the keys for a few hours) so I was there in dungarees, looking a mess from hauling furniture about. I just realized, as I stood there that a) they either didn’t notice or care that this was not actually what that woman looked like b) they thought it was okay to openly perv over her, even at work c) if I’d been dressed up, they would have been doing the same to me. Because the attention is for the look. Not reality.
I met my boyfriend when we were both chefs in the kitchen. If you’ve ever worked in a kitchen you’ll know it’s pretty much the grossest environment you can be in. Sweaty, mucky, hot. Chefs’ whites designed to fit someone the shape of Spongebob Squarepants. The fact that my boyfriend and I met and fell in love in such a place filled me with confidence because if someone can fancy the pants off you when you look your worst, that’s a very good thing.I know it’s just human nature. People are attracted to a pretty face. It just makes me fucking sigh to see that a woman’s choices seem to be invisibility or being leered at. To be ignored or hit on. I was a customer in Curry’s and those guys didn’t even see me. It’s just how the world works, unfortunately. I am hugely thankful to have my boyfriend and my Darkened Room.”