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10. He’s been away for months, and then he returns as if nothing happened.
I have asked my narc more times than I really care to say, “How do you act as if nothing has happened?” Only to be met with this answer, “You just won’t let things go. You live for drama. And to bitch. No wonder I keep leaving your f**king ass you sorry MF’r. Can’t be happy around you. Why can’t you just let things be.”
Yes, isn’t that such a loving thing to say to a partner? Honestly just typing that I felt the shame and humiliation I felt every time he would say this to me. It was hurtful beyond belief and left me feeling chaotic and angrier than I’ve ever been. Frustrated doesn’t even begin to describe how it feels to have someone treat you as if you’re wrong for needing an answer as to why they committed the wrongs they did.
What happened: He wrote to you or called you after being silent for a long time.Mind you these wrongs are everything from the black eyes they’ve given you to the newest profile on yet another trashy hook up site. Things any normal person with a full range of emotions would feel they owed you an explanation for. Except the narc doesn’t. Remember they’re trying to convince you that their bad choices and poor decision making and oops I tripped and fell into another women’s vagina are all YOUR fault. You made them do these horrible things to you. Bless their hearts how could you do this to them. Aren’t you sorry for what you’ve caused here? And now here they are giving you another chance so be thankful and let’s just forget all about what YOU did to them.
What you think it means: He was too busy and had no time to write to me. He was kidnapped and only escaped this morning. Or he was imprisoned, but he was innocent. And, of course, he used every minute he had to think about me.
What it really means: He is wondering if you are still alive and if you still love him