Though men bear the brunt of most cheating accusations, the truth is that the number of women who have reported being unfaithful has increased by 40 percent since 1990, according to Esther Perel, a psychoanalyst and author of The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity. Yes, women are just as guilty of cheating—but unlike their male counterparts, they’re so good at maintaining a double-life that often times it’s almost impossible to tell an adulterous wife and a faithful one apart.
So if women can cover their tracks so well, then how are you supposed to tell whether your wife is cheating on you? Well, if you’re reading this article, then it’s safe to say that you already have your suspicions—but before you make any confrontations or come to any conclusions, you’ll need to familiarize yourself with the subtle signs your wife is cheating on you and watch out for them in your relationship. So read on, and for more marriage advice, don’t miss the 40 Secrets of Couples Who’ve Been Married 40 Years.
Everyone has a Freudian slip every now and again, but this is one you’ll want to pay close attention to. If your wife keeps accidentally calling you another name in bed, it could mean that she’s either wishing you were someone else or is sleeping with someone else on the side, according to Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a licensed clinical psychologist and relationship expert at self-help website TONE Networks.
No wife will tell her husband not to do the laundry unless she has an ulterior motive. Often times, this odd request is directly related to infidelity, as the laundry could be hiding hidden signs of an affair (like receipts in pockets for romantic dinners you didn’t attend or a potential whiff of fragrance that isn’t yours). And if this describes your life, well, you may want to watch out for the 30 Things People Will Say if They Want to Cheat.